ROM venue selection - in progress

It is extremely tiring to select a near perfect venue for a memorable wedding solemnisation.
My criteria for the venue...

• bright
• preferably a glass house or large glass windows
• can accomodate at least 30 pax
• indoor (I need aircon, or I will melt)
• offers good buffet selection or sit down lunch (preferably chinese, my future PIL do not like western food)
• must have halal and vegetarian choices
• has a water feature background... like waterfall, or a lake or the sea.
• church setting
• a dressing room
• budget : 3k

I had wanted just solemnisation, followed by a simple lunch involving our family and close friends, and probably some distant cousins, before we consummate our marriage.
But our parents are typical Singaporean Chinese, so a wedding dinner is almost unavoidable, for 'face' (面子). What a headache.
The most bothering thing is, I cannot decide whether I should invite my dad to my wedding. Afterall, he already has his own family. It will be so troublesome if he brings them to my wedding. My mom will likely break down.
But... he is my dad. After all, I have used his money for my education, insurance and some splurging.
Sigh.

Well.

I haven't selected a suitable venue yet. I do have some choices in mind.

1. One Degree 15 - yacht club in Sentosa
2. One TwentySix - bar / restaurant in East Coast
3. National Museum of Singapore
4. Siloso Resort - where he proposed to me! :)

I was also looking at church weddings, but I am not a Christian so I guess no pastor would want to solemnise our matrimony, even though my fiance is a Christian.
Most of my local Christian friends tell me that. Usually, pastors won't do it for a non Christian union.

I cannot decide whether I should hold my solemnisation on the same day with my wedding dinner or should I have them held on separate days? And the Chinese customary ceremony...?

Sigh.

Oh, why do I seem more concerned than him? He was just casually looking around while I end up the person analysing each venue like scrutinizing a marketing proposal before submitting for my boss's approval.
Damn.

Sometimes I feel like I am marrying alone.